Preparing for Sacrament of Matrimony
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
As you prepare to celebrate the Sacrament of Matrimony, the Pastoral staff of Santa Clara Parish shares in your joy. We are providing this information to assist you with the many details of preparing you for the worthy reception of the Sacrament of Matrimony, so that the two you may enjoy a prayerful celebration that reflects the Christian values we hold as Catholics. If you are interested about the Sacrament of Matrimony, please call our office to make an appointment with our priests; you may check if your desired date is available in the next column. Just below, you will basic information regarding the process (appointments) to receive the Sacrament of Marriage:
THE THREE STEP PROCESS
Please make you First Wedding Appointment by calling our office or on line. The process consist in three meetings to go over the guidelines and requirements for the Sacrament of Marriage.
Ms. Noemí López, Wedding Coordinator
(805) 330-8220 or main office (805) 487-3891
If ready to take this step, please make an appointment with our priests or wedding coordinator:
FIRST WEDDING INTERVIEW FORM
FIRST APPOINTMENT: Orientation day.
On this day the guidelines and requirements to receive the Sacrament of Matrimony will be explained to you. You will be asked to bring next time your certificates of Baptism (updated), First communion, Confirmation. Copy of your ID’s will be needed. FOCCUS assessment link will be sent to you to be completed within 10 days. If no impediments, you may reserve the wedding date with a $150 non-refundable deposit. The date must be booked at least six-months in advance.
SECOND APPOINTMENT: Documents and Witnesses
Turn-in Certificates of Baptism (updated copy), First Communion and Confirmation. Bring two witnesses of each to state freedom to marry. Couple will take pre-nuptial inventory. Review of FOCCUS results. Receive information for Catholic Marriage Preparation Retreat (Engaged or Convalidation); there is an additional cost for this retreat. Wedding date will be reconfirmed. Couple will be reminded about the “marriage license” and to have their Liturgy planning form completed by the third/last appointment. Rehearsal date and time will be given.
This meeting is usually 30 days after your first appointment.
THIRD/FINAL APPOINTMENT: Nothing pending
Couple must bring Marriage License, proof of Catholic Marriage Retreat and selection of Bible Readings (Liturgy Planning Form). Couple will be reminded about celebrating the Sacrament of Confession. The ceremony must be paid off by this time and nothing should be pending.
is my date available? (CALENDAR)
LITURGY PLANNING - READINGS - MUSIC
OLD TESTAMENT READING
A1 "Male and female he created them" Gen 1
A3 "The two of them become one body" Gen 2
A5 "In his love for Rebekah, Isaac found solace" Gen 24
A7 "Allow us to live together to a happy old age" Tob 8
A9 "The woman who fears the Lord..." Prov 31
A11 "Stern as death is love" Song of Songs 2
A13 "A virtuous wife is the radiance of her home" Sir 26
A15 "A new covenant with the house of Israel..." Jer 31
RESPONSORIAL PSALM (SUNG)
B1 “The goodness of the Lord” Psalm 33
B3 “I will bless the Lord at all times” Psalm 34
B5 “The Lord is kind and merciful” Psalm 103
B7 “Blessed is the man who delights...” Psalm 112
B9 “Blessed are those who fear the Lord” Psalm 128
B11 “The Lord is compassionate” Psalm 145
B13 “Let all praise the name of the Lord” Psalm 148
NEW TESTAMENT READING
C1 "What will separate us from the love of Christ?" Rom 8
C3 "Offer your bodies as a living sacrifice..." Rom 12
C5 "Welcome one another as Christ..." Rom 15
C7 "Your body is a temple of the Spirit" 1 Cor 6
C9 "If I do not have love, I gain nothing" 1 Cor 12
C11 "One Body and one Spirit" Eph 4
C13 "The two shall become one flesh" Eph 5
C15 "The God of peace will be with you" Phil 4
C17 "Put on love, that is, the bond of perfection" Col 3
C19 "Let marriage be held in honor by all" Heb 13
C21 "Be of one mind, sympathetic, loving..." 1 Pet 3
C23 "Love in deed and in truth" 1 Jn 3
C25 "God is love" 1 Jn 4
C27 "Blessed are those called to the wedding..." Rev 19
D1 "Rejoice and be glad..." Mt 5
D3 "You are the light of the world" Mt 5:13
D5 "A wise man built his house on rock" Mt 7
D7 "What God has united, man must not separate" Mt 19
D9 "The greatest and the first commandments" Mt 22
D11 "They are no longer two, but one flesh" Mk 10
D13 "The first miracle of Jesus" Jn 2
D15 "Remain in my love" Jn 15:9
D17 "Love one another" Jn 15:12
D19 "That they may be brought to perfection..." Jn 17
INSTRUCTIONS FOR LECTORS
Mr. Lance Crane, Music Director
Liturgical Music is already selected for this celebration. Questions or requests? Please contact our music director.
most common questions
In what language can the Mass be celebrated?
Spanish, English, and/or Bilingual.
Can a priest friend of the family celebrate the Mass?
Yes. However, the family should consider giving him a donation for his services. The parish is committed to supply our own priests. If the priest is not from the Archdiocese of Los Angeles, he must bring a "Celebrat" letter from his bishop.
Who many people can walk the aisle (size of Wedding party?
7 Couples may walk the aisle with you plus your parents.
Can children be part of the Wedding party?
Yes. Up to four children 4 years old and up.
Can we write our our vows?
No. We follow the Catholic Rite of Matrimony.
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